First and formost, my name is Mentor. Yes, you heard that right, my name is like that, it is not my title. From time to time I do have a tendency to play the role of a mentor, which makes everything so confusing. I was born after three sisters and raised together with them in a tiny house in Prishtina, capital city of Kosovo, and there is a whole interesting story about that. But to cut it short, I was born into injustice, was violently kicked out of my house with my family by Serbian paramilitary force – which forced us to live in a refugee camp for sometime (will describe this story in another post). Fast forward, the war ended, Kosovo become an independed contry in 2008 and right after that I came to US as a high school exchange student in Apple Valley, California. If you do not know where Apple Valley is, I do not blame you! It is in between Los Angeles and Las Vegas, aka middle of nowhere dessert with no real apples, just tumbleweeds and freaking goat-heads. Lived there for 3 years, made some incredible friendships and discoveries about life and its situations. I was pursuing a associates degree in math and physics from Victorville Community college, and really fell in love with physics – and then i got to quantum physics and cosmology and my life morphed into one that questions not only what are stars and atoms made out of, but also who the heck is asking the question!?
My dad was an electrical engineer and I was following his footsteps – as a lot of people tend to do. Nothing wrong with that, right? Wrong (at least for my case)! I had this moment that changed everything mid-way through my junior year electrical engineering program at Arizona State University (yes, i got out of the California desert to go to Arizona desert – story of my life). Witnessed, that some of my professors though brilliant, they were involved in the designing of the atomic bombs. I thought, how can a person who has so much intelligence use that intelligence for destruction? Then I realized that in school we do not learn to use our intelligence for advancing humanity as whole, we just absorb tons of information, repeat and memoize instructions, and do last minute work. That moment I realized that this got to change! Schools should be places where students are going to educate their minds, but also cultivate loving kindness and compassion in their hearts.
With this in mind, I wanted to start a university in Kosovo that educates the minds and the hearts of students. I envision it to be a “Factory for Changemakers”. With this bold and crazy idea, I went to the dean of students, Dr. Aaron Krasnow. He was that person who gave me permission by telling me that “you can do it, but you just got to start small and build your way there.”. I thought to myself, “Holy moly, the dean of Arizona State University told me that I can one day build a university that educates all the students to be Changemakers!”. Then, i also go to see the movie The Secret and my ego boosted 100% and i started believing in the power of my thoughts to create and manifest. Nothing could get in my way!!
From that moment, I went ahead and got to start 5 student organizations at ASU, got to co-found two non-profit organizations, launched a movement at Arizona State University, and got to be a student senator representing students. All this while getting recognized with many awards and a student leader while I was finishing my engineering degree (mostly for my parents and for me to have a piece of paper). I told myself, I’m going to get a masters degree in entrepreneurship! Nothing could get in my way!!
The summer after I finished my undergraduate (2014) degree was a tough one. While I was enjoyed the summer working with my friend Nathan to start a business in Kosovo, and enjoying life to the maximum! After a night in Prizren that was full of dance, singing, and drinking, my cousins woke me up looking like something has gone terrible wrong. I looked at my phone, i have a million missed calls. Then I realized that something has really gone wrong. My cousin who was looking extremely concerned woke me up and told me that I have to go back to my home. I asked him why, and he told me “your sister, Drita, is in the hospital.”. In that moment, I knew that she had passed away. We went back to Prishtina, were I got to face my family. I will never forget their devastated and broken spirits. Extremely heart broken, I told myself and the family that we have to accept this and not resist it. Nothing can be done about it anymore, but to learn lessons from her life. Remember when i said that nothing could get in my way? I was wrong!
This event lead to a series of chain events that were devastating to me that got me into an extreme depression and anxiety, disease, and ultimately a lot of a suffering. The school decided not to fund my masters program because funding got cut, my residency in US was being put into question, I had no job lined up, filled with student loans, and I was not being able to keep up running all the initiatives together with getting a masters degree that was suppose to be two years but I had to compact into one year so I can afford it (basically, taking two semester of classes in one semester). I barely finished my thesis in time – and at the same time I got chosen to speak at the graduation ceremony at ASU – what an honor. However, I found that outside success does not matter more than inner wellbeing. I did give the speech, but inside I was suffering from anxiety and disease.
All of my efforts at ASU had gotten me some recognition from the community and through that I got recommended for a job, that I thought was my dream job. The job was at Ashoka, the organization that pioneered the field of social entrepreneurship. After 8 months of interviews, they offered me a job – yeah it was intense! I moved to Washington D.C., and ready to start my first job. The people were nice, and the team was extremely unstructured. I loved working there, but I had still didn’t overcome my disease and anxiety. I was struggling with my stomach pain, to a point that i got to get hospitalized while giving a speech in New York city event. After another 8 months (magic torture number) of going through doctors and tests to figure out what is wrong with me, they ended up diagnosing me with gastritis, acid reflux, irritable bowl syndrome, and my favorite appendixes. None of them were right, i was still struggling and the medicine was not helping.
While I was going through this turmoil, the only thing that was calming my mind down was YouTube videos of this Indian mystic named Sadhguru. He was not telling me to let go, or stop your mind, or any of that none sense. He kept blaming me for causing this to myself. I was realized that I was powerless against these thoughts and he was pointing that out. Until, one night he came into my dream and inserted a chewing gum into my mouth with force!? I woke up feeling struck but also needed to go to the bathroom. The next couple of days, I wake up and grab my phone to turn off the alarm. As soon as I click “Snooze” on my alarm, I received an email saying “Special Invitation for Inner Engineering with Sadhguru”. I felt like either this is a freaking strange confidence, or this is some divine intervention. The only way to find out was to go and witness what this Inner Engineering is all about. Let’s go to Atlanta to meet Sadhguru!
Went to Atlanta! Booked premium seats in a hall that had more than 1000 participants! Had an open but sceptic mind. I sat down, and they started playing this video of Sadhguru – I was thinking what a cool guy. Then, it was all quiet, and he enters the hall. As soon as he entered, I started feeling this intense energy in my spine and forehead. He goes on stage and starts chanting, and by this moment I’m completely in awe of what was happening to me. I’ve read a lot about how people were describing meeting enlightened masters, but nothing really got me ready for that experience. He initiated all of us into a meditation called “Shambhavi Mahamudra“, which is a 21 minute daily kriya practice. They told us to do this practice twice a day for 40 days, and then they said you will see the difference and will do it at least once a day.
This meditation turned out to be one of the biggest boosts in my life, because not only helped me with my stomach issues, but it also gave me so much energy, focus, and inspiration to be the best possible version of my self so I can best serve others. I am committed for my live to be an expression of love, compassion, and joy in action to benefit all life on earth. I still am committed to ensure that wellbeing and changemaking are prioritized in society (education, corporations, NGO, Government,etc).
Now i’m in Washington D.C., still working for Ashoka in our mission to advance an “Everyone a Changemaker” world. In Kosovo, am involved with many project but my priority is with Sustainability Leadership Kosovo – check out our work and let’s partner up. Speaking of partners, I’ve got a partner, Ali Fraenkel, who is a huge inspiration to me and to all around her. She also happen to work at Ashoka and has an ever loving heart for humanity and all its creation.
Thanks for reading my story. More details will be uploaded either through blogs or videos. Stay tuned! Would love to build relationships with new people – so please do not hesitate to reach out.